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L-O-V-E: The One You’re With …
August 1, 2012, 6:23 am
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I have a number of friends who are single …

One of the things I hear them they say is, “I wish I could find someone to love …”

I have a number of friends who are married …

One of the things I hear them say is, “Sometimes I wish I was single …”

I once heard a story that Pastor Joel Osteen shared. He said a man was married to his wife who had 80% of the qualities he loved and adored. However, she was  missing 20% of the other things that he wanted. So he found another women who had that 20% and he left his wife. Later he found out that this new gal definitely had the 20% … but she was missing the other 80%!

Does it seem like some folks believe if they were just somewhere else, with someone else, doing something else, they would be happier?

So that got me thinking ….

Imagine how much happier people would be if they simply … loved the one they were with!

Love the partner you’re with, the kids you have, the friends in your life, the parents you were given. Same goes for the job you have, the car you drive and the house you live in.

Life is just too short to waste it away thinking about being someplace else with someone else and having different things!

And that’s all I have to say bout that …

A Reflection of Gratitude … Relatively Speaking!

One of the things I love most about Albert Einstein is that he had a way (at times) to simplify some of the most important decisions that we make in our lives.

He said this about how we see the world, “One of the most important decisions we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe!”

Simple right … you have two choices and based on your choice you will either live from a place of love or a place of fear.

Here’s what Einstein said about gratitude, “There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”

Simple … again you have two choices and based on your choice, you will either be ungrateful for most things in life or extremely grateful for the littlest of things in life.

According to Einstein our happiness comes down to how we per- SEE-eve  the world around us.

The truth is that sometimes our lenses get smudged or dirty. We can become cynical with age, especially if life hasn’t always delivered to us what we want or think we need.

Interesting Thought: We spend time cleaning the screens (lenses) of our laptop, iPhone, iPad, or android and yet we rarely take the time to clean the lenses by which we view the world, especially from the perspective of gratitude.

So maybe your lenses have gotten a little smudged …

If so, here are 3 things you can do to cleanse your lenses of gratitude:

  1. Go to a animal shelter and hang out … take some of the dogs out and play with them for awhile. Notice how happy they are to get a little love and attention … and all you did was throw a ball!
  2. Go to a homeless shelter and volunteer for a few hours so you can see how grateful those are who are less fortunate than you feel just because you listened to them. They just need to know that somebody cares … even if it’s for a short while.
  3. Go to a nursing home and spend a few hours with some of the folks who never get visitors … ask them their story and watch their faces light up because you seem interested in them,  knowing in the back of your mind … that could be the last time they ever tell their story to anyone.

Sometimes we simply need other living beings to reflect back to us what we most need to see for ourselves.

And isn’t it an interesting paradox …  sometimes it is in the eyes of those who have the least that reflect back to us … the most.

Then again maybe not … according to Mr. Einstein … it’s all relative!

20 Things You Can Do To Be More Grateful …

Do you sometimes find it difficult to stay focused on the things that make you happy?

Do you ever find yourself forgetting about all of the things that you have …  and instead focusing on the things that you don’t?

If you should find your thoughts headed out into the ocean of “don’t haves,”  here are 20 things you can make a list of that will help you turn the ship back around to the port of happiness and gratitude.

Make a list of:

  1. All the things you bought with your last paycheck that you couldn’t have if you weren’t getting one.
  2. The 3 best lessons you learned from the 3 biggest mistakes you’ve made in your life.
  3. 3 people that you could do something nice for this month.
  4. 3 things you can do for those 3 people (at this point you might as well do them).
  5. Your 3 favorite movies.
  6. All of the freedoms you have because you live in the United States of America (or wherever you live).
  7. The 3 best things that you smell when you walk into your favorite restaurant or bakery or just your 3 favorite smells.
  8. The 2 best things that ever happened to you.
  9. Your 3 favorite songs and the first time you heard them.
  10. The best concert you’ve ever been to in your life.
  11. The 5 things you love most about your children, spouse, partner, or friend.
  12. The first time you kissed your first love.
  13. 3 activities that make you extraordinarily happy.
  14. 10 things you CAN do right now with the body you HAVE right now.
  15. 5 people who impacted you in a positive way at some time in your life.
  16. 3 nice things you can do for 3 complete strangers you meet in the next 3 days (it wouldn’t hurt to do them).
  17. 5 things you can see when you look outside the window that you couldn’t if you were visually impaired.
  18. 3 different sounds you can hear that you couldn’t if you were deaf.
  19. 3 teachers that had the greatest impact on your life.
  20. The total number of items you wrote down on the previous 19 lists that you are grateful for!

Remember that you choose your attitude based on what you focus your thoughts on. You can choose to be grateful or you can choose to be unhappy because you’re focusing on what you don’t have … it’s really up to you!

Pulitzer Prize winning novelist and playwright Thornton Wilder said this about gratitude, “We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.”

According to Thornton … focusing on what we have (our treasures) is a matter of  life or death.

For some reason this one seems like a no-brainer … and for that my friends … I am grateful!