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Holidays … A Blessing or a Curse?

blessing-or-curse-e1302612954465Sometimes in the heat of an unfavorable situation we wish things were different.

We wish that the circumstances unfolding in our life were unfolding in a different manner … preferably in someone else’s life.

And yet how many times, after the fact, after time had passed, were you able to see the good that resulted from the situation? The very same situation you were cursing a day, a week, or a few months ago!

During challenging times it can be hard to focus on the good. Why? Because we are so focused on how uncomfortable, painful, stressful, or inconvenient the situation is that we are experiencing.

The holidays can be stressful, they can put undue pressure on all of us. For some reason, our feelings (negative or positive) seem to get magnified as we come to the end of one year and transition into the next.

Here are 3 thoughts that can help you focus on your blessings this holiday season: 

  1. It’s All Temporary – Remind yourself that all things in life are temporary; including pain, discomfort, stress and visits to or from your relatives during Xmas.
  2. Count Your Blessings – Literally … make a list of all the things that are going well in your life and the things that create a feeling of being blessed. Yes, that includes your spouse and children (remember some folks will not be experiencing the holidays with their whole family this year … people will be missing for one reason or another)
  3. Get Out of Your Head – A friend of mine once said, “A walk through my mind is a walk through a dangerous neighborhood.” Sometimes we get so focused on ourselves (inwardly) that the only way out of our pain and discomfort is to focus (outwardly) on others by blessing them with an act of kindness.

This holiday season can be crazy, hectic, rushed, stressful, uncomfortable, and filled with angst or …

It can be joyful, wonderful, relaxing, peaceful, and filled with blessings.

I guess you just have to decide what you want it to be and then focus on looking for whatever it is you want … a blessing or a curse.

Have an extraordinary holiday season!