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What if you only had 7 minutes … left on earth?
September 29, 2011, 5:38 am
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Okay so it sounds like an absurd question? And yet I was asked to answer it … today!

I was filling out a survey in order to do some work with a woman I consider to be a master speaker and coach (all of us need coaches).

As part of the process,  I had to fill out a survey of filled with some very poignant questions. One of those questions was this: As a speaker, if you only had 7 minutes to speak to people before you left the planet … what would you say?

Excuse me … pardon me … 7 minutes…. are you kidding me!!!! I need more time! Can I have 7 hours, okay how about 7 months, even better 7 years … and that’s my final answer!!!

Let’s be honest, most of us don’t think about how much time we have left here and yet the truth is this: next year at this exact time … some of us won’t be here!

So if you only had 7 minutes to talk to people before you died, what would you say? Would you tell everyone what you think is most important in life, would you tell them what to do or to remember? Or would you tell how they should live their lives?

So here’s what I would say:

  1. Everything in your life is perfect and unfolding exactly as it supposed to be. There are no coincidences. Trust the process!
  2. One of the most important decisions you will make is whether you believe you live in a friendly or hostile universe – Einstein
  3. Your sense of self worth and value is directly proportionate to your level of success in life.
  4. You are an amazing incredible extraordinary being created for an amazing purpose. You just have to uncover it and it’s imprinted on your soul. It’s there … look deeply because sometimes it gets covered with lies and old beliefs that don’t serve you or anybody else anymore. The key to discovering the truth about you lies in your ability to push through your fear and truly love yourself and others. Do that my friends and you will get as close as you can get … to heaven on earth!

So that’s what I would tell everyone and I didn’t need 7 minutes!

So what about you … what would you say?

If you really think about it … if it’s that important that you would be willing to spend the last 7 minutes of your life telling everyone on earth…

Maybe you should tell them … today?

Ch … Ch … Ch … Change? (Gulp)

As a consultant I have come to the realization over the years that not every company who says that they want change, really does.

The reasoning varies and here’s just a few of the reasons I have observed.

5 reasons I believe that organizations don’t change:

  1. Leaders are not willing to be honest with themselves.
  2. Some people are just not willing to do what it takes to commit and see the change all the way through.
  3. People don’t like to be uncomfortable.
  4. People fear the unknown (change).
  5. Some folks prefer the status quo … even though it’s not working!

Change can be hard for many reasons here are a few:

  1. It requires leaders and their employees to let go of old beliefs and find new ways of thinking and doing.
  2. It requires the willingness to sacrifice short term comfort in order to get a payoff that is not always immediate.
  3. It requires the leaders of a company to really examine the fears that have prevented them from moving forward and to take 100% responsibility for the results they are creating in their organization.
  4. It takes time, sometimes more time than people are willing to invest.

Here are 10 ideas that need to be embraced if you want an organizational transformation to be successful:

  1. ALL of the leaders (especially at the top) must be bought in to the change or your process will be slowed dramatically and more than likely fail.
  2. Have a clearly defined vision, mission, and values (beliefs) of the change you wish to see.
  3. Communicate that change throughout the organization down to the very last employee consistently and in a variety of venues.
  4. Involve key leaders and positions in various levels of the organization to increase the buy in and begin weaving the change into the culture of the organization.
  5. Remove the obstacles and barriers that prevent change from flowing up through the organization. Communication needs to flow bidirectionally between the different levels of the company.
  6. Realize that not every person is the right person in the right position and that not everyone of your employees has unlimited potential (including some of the leaders).
  7. Be willing to go “all in” in order to get where you want to go, there really are no short cuts.
  8. Let go of the people who are not willing to change.
  9. Define measurable attainable milestones to make sure you’re on track and moving forward.
  10. Remind yourself of the “why”  (the reason ) you are changing. This will help especially when you bump up against obstacles … and there are always obstacles!
So how are you transforming the culture of your organization? Are you seeing the results you need to take the company to the next level? Need help?
Call and let’s have a conversation about what’s happening in your organization and how you can transform your culture starting today!!!

Sometimes Stuff Happens …
September 22, 2011, 5:49 am
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We all have those times in life when you feel like you get a couple of curve balls thrown at you that brush you back from the plate and get your attention.

Adversity shows up in many different ways and through a variety of situations.

I try not to make these blogs personal and yet once in a great while you remember that life seems to be fragile and that loss is inevitable.

How do you deal with adversity especially when it seems to be focused on the loss or the anticipated loss of someone who has had an extraordinary impact on your life?

Most recently I had a trip back east for work. I was training and teaching in one city, speaking in another city and managed to squeeze in a visit in to see my family.

My father who has had a tremendous impact on my life has been ill for quite some time. However, during my trips home we always find a way to play pinochle, one of our favorite card games.

But this last time was different. I sat down next to him at the table, he was in his wheelchair, and my mom was seated across from him. I dealt the cards and as I did I noticed he was struggling … he looked up at me and said … I can’t hold the cards … he was crushed.

I quickly brushed it aside and said don’t worry Pop we can just talk … and we did. We talked about life and death, we discussed life after death and what we thought happens to us. We went back through his life and talked about all of his accomplishments but most of all what he had accomplished as a father to me and my brothers.

Later that night I went back to see him. He was frustrated and not feeling so good about how things were unfolding. We chatted some more and we talked. At one point it seemed as though I was no longer talking to my father but sitting alongside a fellow human being who is nearing the end of his path. At other times it felt as if I was the parent and he was the child and he was having a nightmare and needed to be consoled. It was an extraordinary day filled with extraordinary moments that I will never forget.


Maybe it’s your parent, sibling, spouse, or child. It could even be a coworker or friend that you need to have “that conversation” with and you’ve been putting it off. It doesn’t have to be about life or death, it could simply be words of appreciation or thanks.

Remember that life is short and you may only have one chance left to forgive, to let go, to say what you’ve been meaning to say but haven’t, for whatever reasons. There is no good reason to wait because sometimes … yes sometimes … stuff happens.

10 Lies and 10 Truths About Do-Overs …
September 12, 2011, 7:53 am
Filed under: Aliveness

At different times in our lives we may feel as though we would like a Do-Over.

You know … a get out of jail free card, a second chance, an opportunity to rewind history, to go back in time,  a second time to make a first impression, etc.

Here’s the truth about Do-Overs … THEY ARE UNNECESSARY!!!!

If you find yourself feeling like you would like a Do-Over regarding a certain point or situation in your life, you just might be telling yourself a laundry list of lies.

Here are some of the untruths you could be telling yourself and the underlying belief that could be messing you up:

  1. My life is not perfect just the way it is (Something is wrong with my life, something is wrong with me).
  2. Everything does not happen for a reason (I don’t trust the process of life).
  3. I know better than the Universe, God, Buddha, Allah, Life Source, etc as to the way things need to be (Nuff said …).
  4. I don’t trust (I operate from a place of fear).
  5. My life is not unfolding as it should ( I know better than the Divine … again).
  6. I am in control of circumstance outside of myself (I can control other people and their thoughts).
  7. I didn’t need to learn that lesson (I don’t need to learn anything from this expereince).
  8. I am still living with regret (I am stuck in guilt or shame).
  9. I am holding onto the past (It’s okay to stay stuck).
  10. I can’t let go of it (I don’t deserve to be happy).
Here’s 10 Truths About You and Your Life:
  1. Your life IS perfect just the way it is, there is nothing wrong, bad, or defective about you or your life.
  2. Everything … yes everything happens for a reason, you just have to trust the process.
  3. You and the Divine are connected and inseparable.
  4. This is a friendly Universe filled with abundance and love.
  5. Your life is unfolding as it should.
  6. You can only control your own thoughts and your own mind.
  7. Every challenge presents a lesson you need to learn … you just have to look for it.
  8. There is no reason to live with regret, it is a waste of time and energy.
  9. The past is the past … every time you rethink it, you relive it, and bring it in to the present … CUT THAT CRAP OUT!
  10. You deserve to be happy, if you only get one of these right … make sure it’s this one!!!
So there you have it 10 Lies and 10 Truths about Do-Overs …
My only question is … which will you choose to believe?

Having a Bad Day?

Have you ever had … one of those days?

You know the day I’m talking about, the one where you feel like your whole is being turned upside down and the harder you try the worse it seems to get.

At least that’s what you’re thinking when:

  • You wake up in the middle of the night and realize that the proposal for a new customer was due last Thursday not this Thursday … and you’re right!
  • The transmission on the car goes out … again.
  • You have 48 hours of work to do … and only 10 hours to do it.
  • One of your biggest customers tells you you’re no longer their vendor of choice … by texting you.
  • The cat throws up for the third time in the same spot … and that spot is in your briefcase!

Can you relate?

If this happens here are 5 steps that will help you to get back on track:

  1. Reframe – look at the situation in the context of your whole life. This will help put things into perspective and help you realize that this particular issue is relatively small in the scope of a lifetime.
  2. Relax – take a deep breath, go for a walk, exercise, most of the time stepping away from the situation will help clear your mind so that when you come back you can approach the challenge with a different set of eyes or perspective.
  3. Refocus – your thoughts on everything in your life that is right. One of the quickest ways to do this is to make a list of 10 things that you are grateful for in your life as quickly as possible.
  4. Reengage – by taking small steps that you know you can accomplish. This will give you a sense of success and accomplishment and help you get your “mojo” working again!
  5. Reward – yourself at the end of the day with some token of self appreciation for overcoming that challenge and moving ahead. In other words … spoil yourself a little. Here’s how: ask yourself, “If someone was to do something really nice for me that showed that I was greatly appreciated … what would it be?” And then do it for yourself!

So there you have it … 5 steps to help you get out of a rut and get you back on the path to sanity.

Of course that is assuming that you were sane when you started!