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Be the Ball … not the Egg!

“Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall,

Humpty Dumpty had a great fall,

All the king’s horses and all the king’s men,

Couldn’t put Humpty together again.”

There has been much debate about whether Humpty Dumpty was actually an egg … or not. The point here is that whatever he was, he certainly didn’t bounce back from his fall.

On any given day, we might be met with news or information that we dread.

It might be personal in nature – Maybe it’s a discouraging lab report, the bank didn’t approve the loan restructure, a phone call informing us that someone we love passed away, or someone we love is walking away.

Maybe it’s a business related matter – We didn’t get the contract renewal, we lost the big order, we didn’t get our dream job, we lose what we thought was a great job, or one of our star employees hands us their resignation letter and says “I’m leaving,”

Whatever the situation, whatever the circumstance, how we frame the event and what we make that event mean in our minds determines our ability to bounce back from adversity.

Yes, we may be in a painful place at that moment in time. However, we don’t have to stay in that painful place forever!

Sometimes the difference between bouncing back and breaking are the choices we make. To trust or not to trust … that is the question!

Sometimes you just have to trust: 

TRUST that things will get better. There will always be better opportunities, relationships, contracts, employees, or jobs. We will always find what we set our focus on – focus on what you want.

TRUSTthe process. Believe that everything unfolds exactly as it need to be. It doesn’t matter if we agree with the current situation, facts, decision, or whether or not we like how it is unfolding. Always trust the process.

TRUSTand let go. Sometimes we have to let go of people, jobs, relationships, opportunities, or something we love so that we can make room for something or someone new.

Your ability to trust and the depth of your trust determines your ability and the speed in which you will bounce back!

In other words … be the ball … not the egg!

The Path of Leadership …

The path to becoming fully “alive” as a leader begins when you define your purpose – your reason for living.

As you get clarity and awareness of your own path you are then able to help others discover and live their own path.

Leadership is about pathfinding. In his book Aspire, Kevin Hall breaks down the meaning of the word leader – lea means path, der means to find – a leader is a pathfinder. Someone with vision who can see the big picture and helps others to discover theirs.

Discovering your path can be like discovering God (sometimes they can be one in the same), THERE ARE MANY PATHS AND MANY WAYS!

Sometimes it is with words, sometimes it is with actions, a fleeting experience, a lifelong journey. At times it is in a flurry of activity and yet other times it is in that moment of stillness when you sit and reflect on your thoughts or you stop thinking all together.

Finding your way is not necessarily easy. It requires commitment, desire, and action … it requires a fire within!

A fire that burns or at the least … one that used to burn. It may have been reduced to a smoldering ember because you’ve lost your path for one reason or another.

Maybe you got side-tracked, maybe you gave up hope, or decided to abandon your path altogether so that you could take the path someone else chose for you … your Mom, Dad, Brother, Mentor, etc.

Author and psychologist Ayala Pines once said that, “In order to burnout a person needs to have been on fire … at one time!”

Have you lost your path, are you still looking, could it be in front of you but you can’t see it because your eyes may be closed … don’t give up!

What if you were to … rediscover your path … recapture your fire … what if you were to lean into the heat and leaned in so far … that you could not go back!

What would you do next?

The Reality of TV … ?

I invite you to close your eyes and pretend it is January 1, 2012. You wake up and park yourself in front of the television set and you don’t move … FOR THE NEXT 77 DAYS!

24 hours a day 7 days a week for the next 77 days you do nothing but watch hour after hour of reality crap, sorry I meant to say television.

You watch shows  like …  The Littlest Groom, Toddlers and Tiara’s, So You Think You Can Dance, So You Think You Can Sing, So You Think You Can Cook, Yen Can Cook, Snooki Can’t Cook, and whatever other reality shows that come on. Yes … 1,848 hours straight of TV!

Now you have a picture of how much television the average american adult watches each year!

On April 1st of this year I cancelled my satellite television subscription just to see what it would be like. I wanted to stop wasting time in front of the “boob tube” and use my valuable time more effectively. It’s been 4 months and I can honestly say … I don’t miss it!

Over the last 4 months I have read more, written more, exercised more, and spent more time with my friends and the people I love and care about.

Someone once said, “garbage in, garbage out.” You can’t sit in front of a television and not have it affect your thinking or making you sick.

Television? Make me sick? How could that happen? Well I believe in the power of suggestion and if you watch it long enough you just might start believing that you should ask your doctor about … Viagra, Cialis, Boniva, Enbrel, Lunesta, Humira, Avodart, Actonel, Levitra, Strattera, Vytorin, Zocor, and on and on and on …

So how much time do you actually spend watching television? And your kids?

Instead of spending countless hours in front of the television, what if you tried doing something that would improve your life or the life of someone else.

Here’s a few ideas:

25 Things You Could Do Instead Of Watching Television 

  1. Read a book.
  2. Write a book.
  3. Read with your kids.
  4. Help your kids with their homework.
  5. Exercise.
  6. Visit the elderly at a local nursing home.
  7. Volunteer at a local charity.
  8. Learn to play an instrument.
  9. Go on a date with your partner.
  10. Learn to dance.
  11. Learn something … anything!
  12. Get a hobby.
  13. Take the $1000 you save by cancelling your cable subscription and donate it to the needy.
  14. Spend time with your friends.
  15. Learn to meditate.
  16. Become an expert in your profession.
  17. Get a new profession!
  18. Go back to school.
  19. Take a cooking class just for fun.
  20. Join a bowling, soccer, hockey, or running club.
  21. Become a better communicator.
  22. Spend quality time with the people you love.
  23. Join Big Brother/Big Sisters and make a difference in a kids life!
  24. Make a difference in anybody else’s life!
  25. Learn how to reconnect to your passion and your true self … instead of watching someone else fake their’s in front of a camera!
So there you go … now go pick up the phone and cancel that subscription!

A Nudge … Towards Greatness?

Recently I attended the National Speakers Association (NSA) Annual Conference in Anaheim, California. For those of you who don’t know NSA is an organization made up of some of the world’s best professional speakers.

Zig Ziglar, Brian Tracy, Les Brown, Dr. Norman Vincent Peal, and Og Mandino are just a few of its legendary members.

As I sat listening to some of the current greats in the business, I found myself in a state of awe and fascination. Not necessarily because of the words they spoke, but more so by the delivery of those words … precise, accurate, perfectly timed, perfectly pitched, and eloquently spoken.  I saw myself as a student sitting at the feet of the masters, watching their magic unfold.

During a breakout session, one of the speakers from the main stage asked his audience why we chose his particular session. One of the audience members replied, it’s because you seemed relaxed, easy going, non-rehearsed, and not as polished as some of the other speakers while you delivered your message on the main stage.

The speaker replied, it has taken me 30 years to perfect my speaking, I have spent a lot of money on speaking coaches, mentors, theatre coaches, and worked extremely hard to be able to present that way, so please don’t think that it was easy or unintentional.

And that had me thinking:

Am I working as hard as I need to in order to be great … in my business?

A mentor and friend of mine by the name of Nido Qubein once said, “We are so busy being good that we don’t take the time to become great!”

3 Questions:

  1. Are you continually learning and studying how to be a great leader, sales professional, or whatever your chosen profession might be?
  2. Have you become comfortable being … good enough but not great?
  3. What action do you need to take in order to take your business or your life to a level of greatness?

Inside each and every one of us is the seed of greatness. Sometimes it just needs a little nudge in order to break through the surface and begin the journey upward towards its destiny … consider this a nudge!