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The Greatest Movie of All Time … It’s Up To You!

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I just finished reading the latest book written by Don Miguel Ruiz and his son Don Jose, entitled The 5th Agreement. At one point in this extraordinary work, the authors share the idea that you are writing the script for the movie you are living out in your life. They go on to say that you are the star, the primary character of your movie and that your movie is just that … your movie!

If you could sneak into another person’s theater (i.e. your parents, spouse, children, etc.) and sit behind them as their film unrolled on the screen in front of you, you would see that their storyline is much different than yours. And even though many of the same actors may appear on screen, they are cast in very different roles.

For example, the star portrayed as the primary character in your movie (you) is always seen as a secondary character in someone else’s film. We always see the world through a different set of lenses than they do.

We may believe that we understand another person’s perspective or how they are feeling. However, the reality is that we can never truly experience or comprehend the movie that someone else is acting out in their head.

The authors go on to say that some of the biggest challenges we face in life are the result of us trying to write or rewrite someone else’s screenplay. instead of tending to the only script we truly have control over … our own!

Truth #1 – We cannot write, direct, or produce, anyone else’s script! Stick to the only script you have any control over … YOUR OWN!

Everyone chooses the movie on their screen. Some of us choose to live out a drama, others a tragedy, and some of us spend our entire lives attempting to win an academy award for our performance or being controlled by our critics.

And yet, there are those of us that choose to live out an action packed adventure or a feel good romantic comedy.

Truth #2 – Our screenplays is typically based on the beliefs we were imprinted with, what we were taught, and the culmination of our life experiences.

So what is the genre for the screenplay you’re writing?

  1. Drama
  2. Tragedy
  3. Romantic Comedy
  4. Adventure
  5. Documentary

Maybe a better question might be … what’s the screenplay you would like to write?

Truth #3The screenplay you live out in your life is completely up to you! You don’t have to play the role you were given!  If you don’t like the movie you’re in … REWRITE YOUR SCRIPT!

So there you have it … your movie, your life, your choice … it’s up to you!

Now where were we?

Oh yes …

Lights … Camera … and Action!!!

Giving Away Your Power … It’s In The Bag!

Over the years I have had my fair share of “memorable” experiences especially when it comes to traveling and airline security.  Being dark complected and having a shaved head, I have on more than one occasion found myself  in the “randomly” selected security line with my new best friends, Raj, Cheng, and Chakor.

Most recently, while traveling over the 4th of July holiday weekend,  I had the opportunity to experience the infamous (let’s make a 95 year old cancer patient remove her diaper – aggressively pat down a 6 year old girl – but let a Nigerian National with an expired i.d. and a expired stranger’s boarding pass through security) workings of the TSA.

While going through the security line this time, I put my liquids in the same one quart bag with a zipper that I have used to travel over 100,000 miles without a hitch with security … until this weekend. This time the TSA agent behind the x-ray stopped me and stated that it was not a one quart zipped lock bag and that I was not allowed to proceed.

I replied that it is a one quart bag and has an actual zipper. She then called her supervisor over who explained to me that it is not a zip-lock bag it is a bag with a zip-per and to “put him out.” As I was escorted “out” I tried to explain myself to the extremely polite female TSA agent who said “Don’t give me any sh*t, if you don’t like it talk to my supervisor.”

I worked my way to the airport information desk and asked for a one quart zip-lock bag and headed back through security. This time I was directed to go through the full body scanner. To say I was upset would be an understatement …  I was seething with anger as a rush of resentful ideas and actions began flooding my brain.

It took a good 5 minutes for me to come to my senses and realize what I was doing …

I was unconsciously giving away my power. What power? The power to decide if I was going to be happy or angry or If I was going to be joyful or resentful.  As if being resentful would change the TSA Supervisor or impact HIM in anyway.

Someone once said that holding onto resentment was like taking a poisonous pill and waiting for the other guy to die!”  I was not willing to die or allow someone else who might have simply been having a bad day to ruin mine!

5 Questions To Ask Yourself:

  1. Who controls your feelings?
  2. Do you allow others to determine your level of happiness, joy, or peace?
  3. Do external factors control your internal sense of worth or value?
  4. Do you take the actions of others as a personal assault against you?
  5. Are you free from resentments or do you relive old scenes or injustices over and over again in your mind?
3 Things To Remember:
  1. We are the only species on the planet that has complete control over what we  think and yet so many of us believe that it is the external events or things that happen in our lives that determines our level of success or happiness.
  2. Nothing … absolutely nothing anybody does is about you. It’s about them  so don’t waste your time or energy trying to rationalize their behavior by asking “How they could do this to me  or why did this happen to me or yadda, yadda, yadda, blah, blah, blah!”
  3. No one absolutely … no one can take your power away from you unless you give it to them … and why on earth would you ever give your power away to a complete stranger or anyone else for that matter?
Oh yes … and one last thing to remember … in Cleveland … a bag with a zip-per that locks … is not a zip-lock bag!